I agree with the thought of being yourself in everything; it is downright nearly impossible to be anyone else for an extended period of time, even with the Cary Grant exception.
My problem is the first part of the interview with Ms. Jindaporn Jayangkura. Her statement that "...personally, I don’t take the idea of one lifelong (love) one very seriously." That would hardly be comforting to her husband, or any man married to her, or someone who believes that. Love goes through stages as we age, which I am sure a man of your intellect knows implicitly. The original sexual and passionate feelings of youth are gradually further developed with a deeper feeling that this love also provides the closest friend one can have; a sounding board for ideas, partner in child raising, a helpmate in age, and finally, a deeper love through shared growing together. None of this is possible if one looks at a partner as being the right one for now, rather than for ever. Marriage vows emphasize that marriage should be entered into consensually, and the typical vows spoken at most ceremonies in the U.S. include that it exists in all conditions (better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health). Such is the way of life, and has been so for as long as civilization has existed. Yes, there are occasions for divorce (abuse, infidelity, incest), but it is, in my opinion, the thought of"what meets my needs now" that is the source of most divorces. My advice is don't get married if you can't commit to it for life. But, if you do take that step, understand that intro- or extroversion is unimportant, as you will have your partner be there to hear you out and to listen to their thoughts' with the pleasurable understanding that they will always go home with you at night. I hope this helps on the consideration of love from someone considerably older than you.
I’d like to clarify what I meant during the interview. When I mentioned not taking the idea of "one lifelong love" too strictly, I wasn't suggesting that marriage vows or long-term commitment lack value, nor was I condoning infidelity.
There is a difference between having multiple relationships sequentially throughout a lifetime and having multiple partners simultaneously. I am strictly monogamous. I just acknowledge that life has different chapters.
And of course, being young and inexperienced, I might have a limited perspective when discussing love.
Thank you again for taking the time to write so thoughtfully.
I would also like to thank you for your understanding and kind words of explanation. Personally, when I was younger I hated someone arguing with me as to the age and experience factor, and yet I find myself doing that now that I am older. I wish you only the best, and thank you for not taking offense at my comments.
This is an interview that feels like watching a really good feel-good movie. It reflects the personalities of both the interviewer and the interviewee remarkably well. I also hope this interview will open up a wider range of perspectives for its readers and encourage them to see things from different viewpoints.
Mr. Gunn,
I agree with the thought of being yourself in everything; it is downright nearly impossible to be anyone else for an extended period of time, even with the Cary Grant exception.
My problem is the first part of the interview with Ms. Jindaporn Jayangkura. Her statement that "...personally, I don’t take the idea of one lifelong (love) one very seriously." That would hardly be comforting to her husband, or any man married to her, or someone who believes that. Love goes through stages as we age, which I am sure a man of your intellect knows implicitly. The original sexual and passionate feelings of youth are gradually further developed with a deeper feeling that this love also provides the closest friend one can have; a sounding board for ideas, partner in child raising, a helpmate in age, and finally, a deeper love through shared growing together. None of this is possible if one looks at a partner as being the right one for now, rather than for ever. Marriage vows emphasize that marriage should be entered into consensually, and the typical vows spoken at most ceremonies in the U.S. include that it exists in all conditions (better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health). Such is the way of life, and has been so for as long as civilization has existed. Yes, there are occasions for divorce (abuse, infidelity, incest), but it is, in my opinion, the thought of"what meets my needs now" that is the source of most divorces. My advice is don't get married if you can't commit to it for life. But, if you do take that step, understand that intro- or extroversion is unimportant, as you will have your partner be there to hear you out and to listen to their thoughts' with the pleasurable understanding that they will always go home with you at night. I hope this helps on the consideration of love from someone considerably older than you.
Dear William,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom.
I’d like to clarify what I meant during the interview. When I mentioned not taking the idea of "one lifelong love" too strictly, I wasn't suggesting that marriage vows or long-term commitment lack value, nor was I condoning infidelity.
There is a difference between having multiple relationships sequentially throughout a lifetime and having multiple partners simultaneously. I am strictly monogamous. I just acknowledge that life has different chapters.
And of course, being young and inexperienced, I might have a limited perspective when discussing love.
Thank you again for taking the time to write so thoughtfully.
I would also like to thank you for your understanding and kind words of explanation. Personally, when I was younger I hated someone arguing with me as to the age and experience factor, and yet I find myself doing that now that I am older. I wish you only the best, and thank you for not taking offense at my comments.
This is an interview that feels like watching a really good feel-good movie. It reflects the personalities of both the interviewer and the interviewee remarkably well. I also hope this interview will open up a wider range of perspectives for its readers and encourage them to see things from different viewpoints.
Thanks for the conversation 😉